Hey everyone, Jared here.

Let’s talk about love — not the movie kind, not the swipe-right kind, but the real kind.

For a long time, I believed love was something you found. That it would just “click” one day. Sparks, butterflies, perfect timing. I waited for it like it was some kind of magic moment that would appear when the stars aligned and we were both ready.

But the more I’ve learned about relationships — through psychology, through my own experiences, through watching others—the more I’ve come to believe something else:

Love isn’t something you find. It’s something you build.

Yes, chemistry matters. Attraction matters. But those things fade and shift. What lasts is what you choose to grow. What you show up for. How you fight and how you forgive. How you stay curious about someone even after years of knowing them. How you choose each other again and again, even when it’s hard.

Building love means having real conversations when it’s uncomfortable. It means learning your partner’s triggers, and your own, and working through them together. It means laughing in the mundane, staying when it’s easier to leave, and being brave enough to be truly seen.

It’s not about finding someone perfect. It’s about finding someone willing to build something real with you — and being that person yourself.

So if you’re out there looking for love, don’t just look for a spark. Look for someone who’s ready to build a fire with you and keep it going when the nights get cold.

And if you’ve already found that person — don’t take it for granted. Keep building.

With heart,

Jared