Hey friends, Jared here.

I want to talk about something that most of us deal with, but few of us actually sit down and reflect on: the way we talk to ourselves. That voice in your head. The one that narrates your days, judges your actions, questions your worth, or (hopefully) encourages you.

For a long time, I didn’t realize how harsh my inner voice had become. I’d mess something up, and immediately think, “Of course you did.” I’d feel sad and hear, “Why are you being so dramatic?” I’d hesitate before making a choice and think, “You’re not strong enough for this.”

Imagine saying those words to someone you love. Would you? Probably not.

So why do we say them to ourselves?

The truth is, your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship in your life. If your inner world is full of criticism, doubt, or shame, it becomes really hard to show up confidently, love deeply, or trust fully.

Over time, I’ve learned to start shifting that voice. Not to something fake or overly positive—but to something kind. Something real. Now when I mess up, I try to think, “It’s okay. You’re learning.” When I feel anxious, I remind myself, “This feeling won’t last forever.” When I’m proud of myself, I let that pride sit for a moment without brushing it off.

It’s not about ego. It’s about compassion.

So here’s my invitation to you today:

Pay attention to that voice inside. Would you speak to a friend that way? If not—change the script. Rewrite it with patience. With care. With love.

Because the way you speak to yourself is the foundation of everything else.

With you,

Jared